Which is most damaging?...Week 11 Post 1

The three patterns are all interesting in that I feel as though all of them would be difficult in their own way to change. If I were to pick the most difficult to change I think it would be the competitive symmetry. I was going back and forth between this and rigid complementarity but I decided competitive symmetry because I feel if two people are that rigid and both like control and want to be in the leadership role, it would be very difficult to change that behavior. I feel that if both people cannot relinquish control then how would they be able to change? The one that I feel would be most damaging to a relationship would probably still be competitive symmetry because of both people always trying to top the other so if you look at a romantic relationship and the people in the relationship are competitive with one another I think they ultimately would get fed up and it wouldn’t work because neither would want to compromise. Apart from that, the pattern that would be most damaging to self-esteem I believe would be rigid complementarity. Because of the resentful feelings that both parties end up having towards one another can be very damaging to the self-esteem of both people involved.